Relationships Thursday: It’s Your Life!
She is back with a bang after a few weeks off….here is another sizzling piece on #Relationships, written with verve and passion for your reading pleasure. Welcome back, Nancy Wyna!
Sometimes in our lives we are faced with challenges, low and dark moments in our Relationships, we ask ourselves if we are really good and whether we can be better, if we choose the kind of life we living or whether life choose us.
At times in connections we tend to not really be sure whether we are in love or we lust. Can we forgive a fling and give love another chance even if we breaking inside? We are caught up wondering if we may try harder or just let it go, but it’s so obvious that both of the options are so hard. All we left to do is to console and tell ourselves that its better at least we loved and lost rather than not loving at all and trusting that nature will take control of every situation.
Personally it scares me to hear or think of the phrase “I feel like I’ve given up my love, my passions, my friendship and my life for him, but it’s never enough.” Especially when it comes from my Girlfriends About their present, broken relationship, which I thought that everything might have been ok.
No matter how much we feel we have invested too much in love, there is also need to remind ourselves that unhealthy relationships restrict and impair us, while healthy relationships bring us freedom and life to our existence. It’s imperative to remember the difference and essential to remember what you should NEVER have to give up for a relationship.
1.Your flawed magnificence; find a person who will love you not for what you have but one who knows your worth, One who tells you that loves you and actually means it. Someone who knows and understands that you are not perfect, but will always appreciate you as you are. Reminisce, the person who truly love you, you are magnificent already. This is not because they’re unseeing to your faults, but because they so brightly see the beauty of your soul. Your shortcomings then dim by comparison. The people who care about you are willing to let you be imperfect and magnificent, at the same time.
2. The factual to decide for yourself. Don’t put the only answers to your growth and happiness in someone else’s pocket. Relationships are not about authority and obedience; they’re agreements of love and respect. You simply can’t live your entire life through someone else’s imaginations. There must be compromise and the space to do what’s right for you, even if someone you care about disagrees. Give, but don’t allow yourself to be used. Listen to the one you love, but don’t lose track or meaning of your internal voice in the process. You don’t have to apologize for what you feel and what you don’t feel; that’s a betrayal of your truth. No matter how much advice people give you, sometimes you have to feel things out for yourself, make decisions on your own, experience things for yourself, and build your own decisions from the ground up the old custom way.
3. Your own Happiness will always come first, never let anyone or anything get in the way of your joy. Live a life that crackles and bangs and makes you laugh out flamboyant every day. Because you don’t want to get to the end, or to tomorrow, even, and realize that your life is a collection of meetings and at times errands and receipts and empty promises.
If a relationship is terminating you off from the world, it’s time to break free and let it go .It’s time to choose love over deception. After all, that’s what love is all about – freedom. So don’t blame love if a broken relationship is interfering with your other stages of life, or robbing you of your self-esteem and personal freedoms. No, don’t blame love. For it isn’t love that’s stealing from you. Its possessiveness, obsession, manipulation and confusion. Love has nothing to do with your situation. For love doesn’t close the door on happiness and liberty instead it opens it wide to let more in
Learn to ignore certain people and situations which always hinder you; it’s one of the great paths to inner peace. So let GO when you must. Let them be, so you can be at peace. Open your heart and let love out. Love people, experiences. Love yourself. And let go of those who try to stop you
The base is yours…it’s your life!