Fathers Day: Lessons from My Father….
I will not be-labour the fact that mothers and womanity has stolen the thunder when it comes to the celebration of such days. Certainly, Mothers Day is a more colourful affair and Fathers Day pales in comparison. I guess this is understandable in our world today. However the significance of Fathers and Fatherhood could never be overstated. Men, generally largely determine what is right and wrong in our world today, and will continue to do so into the future given the Godly mandate that they carry as leaders, visionaries and architects of our society. Certainly, crime, violence and social dysfunction can be mapped back to the role of fathers in society. In Essence, when men are for real – they play a very vital role in the positive shaping of society. The converse is equally true.
Sense of Self
Growing up, even though we never spoke much, I will always remember the few words he spoke to me.
Sense of Pride
Fathers have a sense of pride. In most cultures we carry our fathers names or that of their lineage. This sense of identity is important in a child’s life. At least in African culture this remains an important element. Through stories and illustrations my father ingrained this sense of self and pride in our roots. Yes, we may not have ‘chatted’ or debated as most modern day parents do, but this is one of the things that I take from him and celebrate.
Sense of Responsibility and Personal Independence
Fathers have a role to prepare us for the world. Whereas motherhood has the role to nurture, and teach some of the values, Fathers have the role to prepare us to engage with the toughness that the world and life can be. Again, this is a shared responsibility, but fathers have a critical role to prepare sons to learn the trades of life, to model for their daughters real love and the essence of good manhood among other duties they have within the family unit.
My Dad allowed the deep dive into responsibility for me at an early age as a firstborn in his lineage. He didn’t ‘mother’ or try to save me necessarily, but allowed me to figure things out… offered me space to fail safely and allowed me to find my feet again. In later years, in our few conversations, he was emphatic about the need to ‘think for your own self, and never let others do the thinking for you.’
Happy Fathers Day to All Fathers of the World!
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