Relationships Thursday: Letting Go!
In another candid piece, your Relationship Guru tells it like it is. Perhaps you don’t want to hear it, but sometimes you just gotta let it go. Here is another empowering piece from the lovely Nancy Wyna.. be emboldened!
Love is patient love is kind love isn’t jealous it doesn’t sing its own praises it isn’t arrogant love never stops being patient, never stops believing never stops hoping never gives up love never comes to an end, but what happens when one gives up ?
Awkwardly comes a point in every person’s life when one has to part with someone who has been so close with him or her, leave alone because of natural disaster i.e. death, which is unpredictable, but because destiny was not meant to be. YES! History remains and all you are left with is memories, the person you used to know becomes an ex, be it a friend or anyone in between.
The moments when you happened to meet this person were made in heaven moments, for lack of better words first meeting this person, there’s a sweet beginning, but once you come to really know each other and grow comfortable, you suddenly realize that the relationship no longer brings any particular value to your life and is perhaps, even detrimental.
At times we really want to hold on to them even if we know that we have reached the peak of this relationship, just because we feel days have turned to months and years have passed we being together and we tend to think purely based on how long we have known them and what they have made us experience before. It’s true that time can tie people together, but if you feel as though there’s nothing substantial keeping you connected, time is not a strong enough reason to hold on to something that’s simply no longer worth holding onto.
We often grow complacent with people once we’re comfortable with them. But, hanging onto someone for the pure sake of it and because you don’t know anything else isn’t a good enough reason to stay even if it feels right. Engaging in an undefined friendship or relationship is confusing because you don’t know what you mean to the person, if anything at all. If the person can’t make you feel as though you’re significant, reflect on why you’re allowing someone to treat you this way by thinking you can still try it again or harder.
Most people are held by fear, thinking that we can’t really move on, while others fear being lone, we fear that by letting this people may be they can use our deepest and dark secret as extortion; the hate and tension which leads to regret!
Though it’s good to try more and more, in this era, some things are better left as memories .We can try to bring back the good old days but truth is that we can never be truly happy, considering that they can never be like how they once were.
We tend to drain ourselves so much whilst pressurizing and expecting in the midcourse to go back to where we began instead of using the same energy to actually move forward and focus on someone new. Sometimes, it’s a matter of accepting that it takes time to let go, rather than holding on to something that just can’t be brought back, was lost a long time ago or perhaps, was never really there at all.
Be thankful for what a friendship or relationship has brought you and taught you. Don’t be the desperate one by giving someone a chance to define you instead give an opportunity to someone who needs you, who will love, care and support you.
Find someone who will listen and give you insightful advice, someone who wants the same things, someone you can trust and will be loyal to you, someone who believes so strongly in you and your capabilities. Just someone who makes you feel like you’re someone. Don’t settle for anything less apart from happiness. Let go and love self-more!