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Perspective: We Can’t Change What We Don’t Acknowledge!

We can’t change what we don’t acknowledge!



What we are shows up every time; by how we react to circumstances, how we respond to situations, hence it is important for us to work on ourselves.

Moment to Reflect:
It took me sometime to understand this but the truth is, we are responsible. We are responsible for most of the stuff that happens in our lives. I think I wasted a lot of time in my life blaming this or that, for things not working out but it was not until I started to acknowledge my short comings, that I was able to work on myself as a person. Blaming this or that may feel good for a while but it does not help us to grow. Mostly when we blame others or our circumstances, our shortcomings remain on a blind spot, the fact is, we can’t change what we don’t acknowledge.

Things that are not helpful for us are;

1. Thinking shamefully about our own weaknesses.
2. Being afraid of being judged by others.
3. Thinking perfection is ideal.
4. Not willing to confront our issues.
5. Thinking responsibility is too much work, to deal with.
6. Feeding our ego.

My relief only came when I accepted that; life is not perfect and i shouldn’t expect either myself nor others to be perfect and that I am not going to be on point all the time and it’s okay because then that leaves room for growth. Secondly; It does not matter what others think, meaning that sometimes others may not be seeing clearly as well and their judgment/criticism may not always be accurate. Lastly; my growth is more important and I should not let my ego to get on the way, of me improving myself.

What things are you willing to acknowledge?


Zanele is an Author of two upcoming books and a Wellness Consultant and Mentor. She has a sparkling personality and a strong catchy spirit and regards herself as ‘reserved extrovert’. As a mother and a friend she is tender-hearted and loving and runs a mentorship programme for pre-teens and teenagers with her daughter. She is passionate about writing/journaling, wellness, personal development and family.

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