Relationships Thursday: That Special Someone..
Well it is a New Year… everyone is so busy writing down and making New Year’s resolutions for the 2015. After the long holidays am back in the office everyone I bump into is very ardent to ask me what is your new year resolution. I must say am not that kind of a girl who will always like to share everything am planning to do but am very generous in listening.
As I try to adjust to new year, My phone rings ….This excites me a lot ,it’s one of my favorite friend who is checking on me. She has a real sense of humor and she is among the aggressive ladies I have met. Not to mention she has been single for a while and the good news is she is now in a relationship. “I found my ideal partner” she echoes … “wow am so happy for you girl finally! Can’t wait to see who is the lucky guy”
“Ooh actually he is calling, I have to pick this,” she utters excitedly, “kindly let’s meet later today after work for coffee at the usual joint later.” She hung up. Well from her echo she sounds thrilled and tensed. Being the usual me I can only thank God for my friend and wish her well as I wait to catch up with her later. This received phone call makes me get to think and what to know who the ideal partner is in relationships.
While the reasons we fall in love are often a mystery, the reasons we stay in love are far less elusive.
There may be no such things as the perfect partner but just an ideal partner can be found in someone who has developed themselves in certain ways that go beyond looks, charms and success, forget the tall, dark, handsome, scented with designers perfume, with a Rolex day date watch guy or the county boy with the faded jeans and the horse shoes or the angel, in the form of the most beautiful girl on earth. Cerulean eyes so crystal clear that you could see rivers, oceans, the world through radiant and shining, swishing with every word she speaks… Although we each seek out a specific set of qualities that is uniquely meaningful to us alone, there are certain characteristics that both partners can strive for the relationship to be much more lasting success.
The ideal partner for anyone is one who is open and undefended, one who is willing to be susceptible. He is approachable and accessible to response without being overly sensitive about any topic .He or she expresses his or her feelings, thoughts, dreams and desires in personal development while being honest and living with integrity. He or she does is working towards building trust, he tries to live a life of integrity so that there are no differences between one word’s and action.
Ideal partners value the other’s interests separate from their own; they feel pleasant towards and support one another overall goals in life. They are sensitive to the other’s wants, desires and feelings and place them on an equal basis with their own. Ideal partners treat each other with respect and sensitivity. They do not try to control each with threatening or manipulative behavior. They are respectful of each other distinct personal boundaries while at the same time being close physically and emotionally.
However if you think in ideal relationship there is no misunderstanding, then you are wrong. What ideal partners try to do is to keep their relationship strong even after having ups and downs and also avoiding misunderstanding very skillfully you should always understand your partner and feel for your mate.
When a couple understands each other they become aware of the commonalities that exist between them and also appreciate their differences. When both partners who are ideal in communication attitudes, person’s want, and needs are understood and validated.
Finally the ideal partner has a sense of humor! Yes the ability to make laugh at one’s self and life’s shortcomings allows a person to maintain a positive attitude while dealing with sensitive issues which may arise within them. Therefore a good sense of humor definitely eases the tense moments in a relationship.
Besides it always feels good to have fun with someone. New year is here while you plan to make your resolutions choose your ideal partner.