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Gratitude: I am My Fathers Child!

“It is only with gratitude that life becomes rich” ~Dietrich Bonhoeffer



“Gratitude is the memory of the heart”. It is important to choose to look for what we can be grateful for, nor matter what the circumstances. Here’s the thing, things don’t just happen, so if something has come, there’s a reason and still, let’s be grateful, because it carries in itself a blessings in disguise.

Moment to Reflect:
Last week I shared on forgiveness and an experience with my father. This week I want to drive a point home. In my life I have since realized that “labels” don’t work but in everything, I am simply just having an experience, it’s not “good” it’s not “bad”, yes it maybe hurtful but it is an experience. In every experience, we have two choices, we can either choose death or we can choose life. Death is choosing to focus on the negations and ultimately we self destruct and Life is choosing that the experience evolves us and we grow out of it.

Here is how we choose life;
1. by being constructive and not allowing our ego to create drama out of the experience .
2. by looking for things we can still be grateful for while we are going through the experience or even after.
3. by allowing and working with the experience to teach us important lessons.
4. by gaining wisdom out of the experience.

I’ve learned to turn my experiences to work for me instead of working against me and here’s what I’ve since appreciated about my father.

1. Responsibility: my father had a big sense of responsibility and he took his responsibilities seriously, no matter what, he carried us as a family, no matter how tough life became he would complain his way but still doing what he needs to do, he never walked out on us and for this reason, he will go down as my hero.

2. Family vacations: from time to time, my father would take us out for a family holiday, for some reason it mattered to him and I am glad it did because it cultivated the love for traveling in me.

3. Hard work: my father instilled being a hard worker, he was an example in every way, he was employed but running a successful business at the same time.

4. The importance of saving money: I’m yet to remember any debt that my father had because he made sure he stayed out of debt as much as possible, the house, the cars he owned them and were debt free.

My point, I could have missed all these important lessons if I stayed angry at my father but I decided rather to look for things that I could be grateful for and celebrate his existence in my life. After all, all that matters is what we focus on because what we focus

What are you grateful for?


Zanele is an Author of two upcoming books and a Wellness Consultant and Mentor. She has a sparkling personality and a strong catchy spirit and regards herself as ‘reserved extrovert’. As a mother and a friend she is tender-hearted and loving and runs a mentorship programme for pre-teens and teenagers with her daughter. She is passionate about writing/journaling, wellness, personal development and family.

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