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Identity: Who Are You?




I believe everyone at some point in their lives needs to ask themselves this question and if you have never asked your self this question I challenge you to do so.
Who are you?
Moment to Reflect:
I grew up in a very strict home which taught me values and mostly importantly self respect. Maybe as a result this is the reason why I often couldn’t understand some behaviors and often misjudged people with seemingly less standards than me, people who may have not had the protection I had, people who may have had freedom too early and didn’t know how to handle it. But growing up has taught me a few things and one of them is that, there comes a time in life when everyone needs to make their own choices and the walls that seemed to protect them gets removed. I am talking about freedom, I call this stage ” finding yourself “. When it’s not about anyone but you, you do things because you want to and not because of anyone else. This stage can be challenging if you have always defined yourself by your experiences because you realize that life is about choices and at any given time these choices change according to where you are in life.
As an adult now I have since realized a couple of things:
We are not our experiences, we often judge our selves and others according to what we or others have done, have gone through but the truth of who we are is often far beyond just our experiences. It is often misplaced to judge ourselves by changing/shifting outside circumstances, we limit our view in this way. Who we are is ever present and does not change, the existence in us is eternal.
We are not our possessions; our successes may often cloud our perspective, specially when we have done very well but the above can only show our abilities, what we are capable of, our abilities does not define who we are.
We are not our roles, it is so easy to clearly define ourselves according to the roles we take and as a mother, this I know too well. There was a point where I couldn’t remember how my life was like before I became a mother but who we are is far beyond the our roles.
The thing is, everything is constantly evolving, there is movement and because of this we can never define ourselves with anything that is outside ourselves.
My truth is, we are all having a human experience but the experience is not who we are, it does not define us, it remains as an experience and hopefully we learn from this human experience. Who we are is much more powerful than we will ever comprehend.
Do you know who you are?


Zanele is an Author of two upcoming books and a Wellness Consultant and Mentor. She has a sparkling personality and a strong catchy spirit and regards herself as ‘reserved extrovert’. As a mother and a friend she is tender-hearted and loving and runs a mentorship programme for pre-teens and teenagers with her daughter. She is passionate about writing/journaling, wellness, personal development and family.

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