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Fix That Light Bulb!

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Have you had a dream that was the most fantastical dream ever imagined? Maybe what you started off thinking was the most amazing life you could create? Or perhaps, it was the most amazing love in your life that anyone could ever have?

And then? Life happened! You met the love of your life, finished school, and moved into a life that was not exactly what you dreamed.

Sometimes, in our lives we feel we have lost the dream we once imagined. We start off with these visions of where our lives should go and dreams of the most amazing events happening in our life.

We reach a certain age, and look back wondering what happened to the dreams and visions of that young girl or boy who entered this life full of expectations of how things would be. You found your life partner, but …. it hasn’t turned out exactly what you dreamed. Was it an illusion? Maybe you just lost touch with each other and the dreams you imagined together

What happens when your relationship seems to be stale and your dreams just are not a reality? You go back to basics. Remember what it was that brought this amazing person into your life. Remember the qualities that stood out. They may not be according to your original dream, but somewhere along the way, they are there.

So many people I know are going through relationship issues right now.  I am sure that there is a real energetic reason, and I do believe that there is a lot to be said about the mindset of consciousness right now. We, as humans, are always looking for the bigger and better, and we are a throw-away society.

I saw a Facebook meme today that said, “If a light bulb is broken, you don’t buy a new house.  You fix the light bulb.”  Well, many light bulbs in relationships are broken right now.  There is no secret that relationships are hard, and there are times when both partners seem to be on completely different pages and opposite corners.  Most of the time, it is due to a lack of communication with each other and letting real life issues get in the way of maintaining the relationship.  And it doesn’t happen overnight.  Granted that there are times when both have just grown apart, and the relationship has run its course.  But if the relationship is fixable and there is hope, then fix the light bulb!

It is important to take a good hard look at what qualities drew you to your partner.  Are they still there? Or are they hidden under some other issue that has risen?  Has the light bulb gone out? What about you? What mindset are you bringing to the table?  Has life created what is impossible to rise above? Or are you just going through a change of attitude and lack of real communication?  Have you both just gotten used to each other and don’t feel the need to romance and say what you feel?

How much have you invested in the relationship?  Does it seem one sided?  A lot of questions to answer, but they are all important ones.  They are questions that are well worth the time to ask and answer for yourself before making a decision about your relationship.  Only you and your partner can know for sure what is right or wrong for you both.  No one else can tell you what the best course is, but know for sure that the time invested in working through your own inner thoughts is well worth it.

Maybe you are at a crossroads in this and need to make up your mind.  Are you where you need and want to be? What can be done?  Whatever decision is made, make sure it is your decision and not someone else’s.  Make sure that you are listening to your own inner guidance.  To do otherwise would be selling yourself short.

Your investment of time in any relationship is what makes it great! Maybe, just maybe, your partner feels the same, and it is time to begin the dance of dialogue again. Fix the broken light bulb! Don’t buy a new house! Remember those long talks in the night? Remember those long conversations when you shared your dreams of the future together?

The difference? Now you know each other – you have experiences with each other – you get it each other. Many obstacles in life are actually stepping stones to becoming greater together. Remember how you overcame those walls or found ways to navigate around them together. Remember those times.

I, myself, am at an age when kids are grown and living their own lives. I have the unique opportunity to reflect on things I could have changed, done differently, was successful with. One thing that I have learned is that challenges will come and go, but dreams remain.

If a light bulb isn’t working, instead of buying a new house, I will try it out first to make sure it’s just not loose. I will fix it first. I will fix the light bulb and invest the time needed to keep the light on. That, my friends, is how relationships stay and dreams together become realities.

One thing about dreams, though. They morph and change – make sure you morph and change with them … Together! And fix that light bulb!

Camille Wylde

Camille is a poet, author, and artist with two books coming out soon. She leads women’s empowerment workshops and retreats focused on improving body image and teaching women to embrace their own beauty and sensuality. While the body of her work is in erotica and romance, she focuses on the strength of women and their inner voices. Kind hearted and loving, her motivation in writing and art is the beauty of women – all women!

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