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The Runners and The Walkers…

“It’s either you are running away or walking towards something.”


The runners and the walkers, which one are you?

There are two kinds of situations in life, in which our decisions stems from and it’s important to be very clear. Are you running away from something or are you walking towards something?
Moment to Reflect:
I got married when I was 22 years, pretty clear, I was not walking towards my marriage and not because I had not figured my self out and developed myself then but there were serious fundamental issues that were behind my decision, of course I loved the man that I was getting married to but more than anything I just didn’t want to be home, I didn’t want to be with my father, running away from having to face up to my unresolved childhood issues. I then spent years of my life in resentment and very unhappy, looked up to my husband to fill-up the empty spaces of my heart, unconsciously looking for my fathers love. Little did I know that this will catch up with me because ultimately what we run away from has a way catching up with us.
The runners:
1. Hasty decision making;
Everything moves very fast and you can tell by this why there is no proper time to think about things.
2. Denial;
These people will not admit to issues, they are in a deep state of denial.
3. Fear based;
Thinking behind, “If I don’t do this now, I may never get another chance to do it”, these people are fear driven more than they are actually reasoning things out.
4. Immediate self gratification,
I want to have this now, I can’t wait.
5. Lack of self discipline;
What I want I get and “NO” is not an option.
6. Unresolved issues;
lack of proper decision making.
The walkers:
1. Slow in decision making:
These people take time before they decide, they think things through and can see the end from the beginning.
2. Assessment/Introspection;
Where, how, who, when; these questions bring clarity in decision making, so as to be prepared when faced with challenges later on.
3. Patience;
Here, things can wait.
4. Contentment;
Things are not done because of some deficiency, these people are complete in who they are.
5. Self discipline;
These people have control over themselves.
6. Responsible;
These people are responsible, they think of how their decisions will affect/impact others, it’s not just about them.
The truth of the matter is; SPEED KILLS!!!

Anything that is going at an alarming rate is bound to crush and this is the reality that some of us have had to face. The process of anything that is developing is in stages and this can clearly be seen in nature and even in humans, the baby will first learn to crawl, stand, walk and then later run. Things move in stages, they don’t just shoot up. I never understood why people would say “so and so missed a stage” and now the stage is catching up with him/her, and it’s true. Any time you miss a stage, you are bound to have problems in your development and the solution is nothing less that starting all over again, go back and anyone who can’t learn this lesson will keep on going through the same mistakes unfortunately until they learn, every stage comes with what is necessary for the next developmental stage. You get this, you get the balance, the
“what” you need for the next stage, on the opposite side, you rush, you miss this. Life is abnormal without stages, you need to take proper steps and take your time, some decisions in life are very costly and some will cost you your very life, walk carefully.
Are you running away or are you walking towards something?


Zanele is an Author of two upcoming books and a Wellness Consultant and Mentor. She has a sparkling personality and a strong catchy spirit and regards herself as ‘reserved extrovert’. As a mother and a friend she is tender-hearted and loving and runs a mentorship programme for pre-teens and teenagers with her daughter. She is passionate about writing/journaling, wellness, personal development and family.

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