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So I get my first project in the Toastmasters club I just joined and
its titled the ‘icebreaker’. Basically this is where a new members
comes forward to give their first speech about a topic they are most
familiar with…themselves.

I picked up my pen and note, scribbled a couple of lines and in a
split moment had an idea of what my opening and closing lines would be
like, faced with my full length mirror, I practiced my speech taking
note of my body language and facial expressions and making complete
mockery of how indecisive I was on what my speech main points would
be. I stopped for a moment and looked back at the face starring back
at me from that mirror and I see the most indecisive person in the
whole wide world.

Indecision, I realized, had been my most constant companion for as far
as I can remember and is the major cause of misery and unhappiness in
many lives today, a major limiting factor to moving forward, to
clarity of purpose and ultimately to success.

Just last year, I had the most decisive moment in my entire life and
guess what it was? I decided (..ooh, that seems like a big word right
there) to quit my job with no plans or idea on what happens next which
I must confess was a rather scary one but guess what, I have never
been happier to have made any other decision (if at all) as that one,
it was the most fulfilling moment of my career and lie as I felt in
control, so much power and so much peace just having decided with no
knowledge of whether or not I’m doing the right thing.

I’m not saying to do something drastic like I did (or better, my point is that there is so much power in making a
decision especially if its the right one but then again, how do you
know if its not? Decision making brings a certain degree of peace and
calm that should not be traded for anything in the world and if you
are concerned whether its the right one, ask yourself which one makes
you feel lighter, easier and calm.

As expected, there are usually pros and cons to everything in life and
I must add that not deciding is all cons with no pros, I can say that
for a fact. Being undecided puts you at the mercy of others who are
mostly clueless regardless of how smart they may appear, you know why?
Because they are not you and not matter how alike you are to someone,
they can never feel or think like you, they never will be you. You are
a masterpiece and owns the complete control of your decisions…and
actions, don’t throw that away for anything, decide today to take the
wheels of your destiny and drive yourself to that glorious destination
designated for YOU alone.

I have decided to stop being indecisive, have you?


Adeola Bakare Uyeye

Successpreneur and Coach. Totally obsessed with Personal Development and Growth. Creative Versatilist with a Can-Do-Bring-it-on-Mindset. Passionate about Start-ups. Lover. Wife. Mother. Friend. And I Love Good Food!

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