Stop and Just Be!
This week’s Creative Mondays question starting my thought processes going. The question? “What do you do to rekindle the creative love affair?” What was interesting is that it is a question I have been asking myself lately – a lot! So, thank you, Tim, for cementing my own suspicions that this is something that most people ask from time to time, whether they consider themselves creative or not.
The answers were amazing, and you can read them on the timitude.com website. My own was to go back to the beginning, rediscover what drew you in. Start again.
I admit! There are days when the creative muse just hides, or takes a vacation. And I just cannot imagine creating anything. But then I realize that I just created something with that thought. I just created a space for me to stop and just be.
And that is, for me, sometimes, the best gift I can give myself. Stop and just be!
As I sit here writing this, I am looking across my studio at a tryptic painting that I started. First a tryptic is a series of three paintings that either are combined as one or paint a story in three images. I paint in abstract and see where the paint and canvas take me. This piece had taken me so many different directions and each just added to the feeling that I just wanted to throw it away. So, I had to fall in love with it again.
I just simply stopped and let it be. As I look upon it each day, images are revealing themselves and are showing the story to me. My love for the piece is becoming rekindled, and I am diving into them when I finish writing today. In fact, I just can’t wait.
As a creative writer and painter, keeping the muse going sometimes becomes more than difficult. My inspiration gets lost in the day to day distractions and mundanities of paying bills, going to work, taking the dogs for a walk, etc., etc., etc.!
I even lost my love for my novel, Dark Stranger, and after 3 or 4 rewrites and throwing the entire novel away, starting again, 3 or 4 rewrites, I put it away for a month or so. At the urging of a really good friend, I picked it back up. I went back to the beginning to rediscover what I loved so much about the story. And? I am in love again with the Dark Stranger! I cannot wait to finish it and get it to my fans!
And isn’t that what any of us need to do sometimes? Whether we need to fall in love again with ourselves, our partners, our lives, we need to start from the beginning once again. Find what it was that you fell in love with in the first place. Is it still there? Then stop and just be. Be with it. All of the emotions that rise up, all of the thoughts, all of the stuff. Just be!
Jinny Ditzler, a writer with Huffington Post, offers five steps for falling in love again. After reading her advice, the steps work with anything, even being creative.
Step one says to think about what you really want. What is it that brings you joy. What is it that you want to do?
Step two tells us to open our eyes. Look at what is reality – not the stories we create. Sometimes we get so caught up in our stories that we fail to see, really see, what is there right in front of our faces. Me? My advice again – Stop and just be!
Step three – “Be present, be positive.” Wow, this says it all! In other words, stop and just be. Stop replaying the “old movies” in our minds of why whatever it is won’t work. Stop and be!
Step four? Ah, this one is sometimes one of the hardest. Jinny says to listen to our hearts. But what if our heart and mind are so separate that they confuse us. Stop and be! Take some time to use the other steps. What makes your heart sing? What brings you the most joy? Throw your mind thoughts out the door. Tell those little chattering monkeys to go away. Stop and Be!
Then we come to Jinny’s Step five. She reminds us to have faith. Stop trying to manipulate the outcome. “Get your hands out of it” and … You guessed what I am going to say. Stop and BE!
Know that you are in your own process – there are no rules and whatever is happening is all right and perfect timing. Even though you want to push and shove and make something happen. That is when that something, whatever it is, pushes back.
So, with all of this, the best way to bring creative passion back and fall in love with yourself, your partner, your creative work – whatever you need to fall in love with again:
Stop and Just BE!