An Unexpected Treasure
Have you ever had one of those weeks that just seemed to throw stones and rocks into your path? Maybe it was one of those gut wrenching weeks that whatever you did, it was the wrong thing? Yeah, you know what I’m talking about. That was my week last week, and up to today, actually.
As a matter of fact, until I sat down to write this, I was seriously contemplating selling all of my worldly possessions, throwing in the towel, and moving to a commune – quite simply running away to hide. Fortunately, that’s easier said than done with my crazy life. And I really had to force myself to open the laptop and begin to write.
Then, out of the blue, a friend of a former massage client of mine dropped by to see if I would sell her a gift certificate for our mutual friend. Now, I have closed my private practice, but occasionally see a friends once in a while – if they twist my arm enough, that is. She did!
I agreed, and she showed up just a few minutes ago. She related to me that the reason she was so persistent in purchasing a massage was that our beautiful friend had been helping with a really tough spot. The tough spot? This woman’s husband is dying and has given up. Our mutual friend has been taking her out and held her hand in the last month during hospital stays, surgeries, and treatments.
I listened to this woman talk about our friend and all of the things she has done to help. I watched this woman’s face, tired and drawn, light up at the mention of our friend’s help. And, as quickly as she came, she left my studio. And I sat down to write.
Yes, this week has been difficult to say the least. I lost a friend because of words said that were taken wrong. And I have felt that loss. But, I realized as I sat down to write this that it is our friends who build us up and support us when we need them the most. Just as my friends have done this past week.
Instead of throwing in the towel and running away to hide, I grab that thread of friendship of those that know me the best. And in that, I pray that I can give just a small bit of what they have given me.
We become so focused on our day to day “stuff” that we forget to look at the amazing things around us – especially our friends. We tend to take them for granted getting caught up in all the yucky junk that gets thrown in our way.
In all of this, I was reminded of a book I read pretty much once a year ago. It is called The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. I was introduced to this book 15 years ago and have made it an annual practice to read it. Why? Because it reminds me of that which is most important.
Basically, there are Four Agreements in our lives that transcend our own ego and our own ability to stay in the yucky junk.
1) Be impeccable with your word – always speak your truth;
2) Don’t take anything personally – realize that if your truth offends another, it is their issue and not yours;
3) Don’t make assumptions – you know what that does, right?;
4) Always do your best – in everything you do.
I recommend this book of wisdom regardless of your spiritual path. The ancient Toltec wisdom says a lot. Is it easy to live by? Nope! That’s why I re-read it once a year. And each time, I gain a deeper understanding of myself and how I relate to others. I also am reminded of my giant boulders in my life – mainly, the second and third agreement.
It is easy to make assumptions, particularly since I am passionate and emotional. And I tend to take things personally. These two agreements are something against which I fight and struggle each day.
It is those agreements of which I am reminded with my friend and the sacrifices she makes for her friends. It is those agreements of which I am reminded as my friends have offered their hands and voices of support this last week. And it is those agreements of which I am reminded in my own relationship with myself and my family.
So, I sit here and write this hoping it rings true for someone else today. Not every day is sunshine, bunny rabbits, and roses, but every day is a true gift. And every friend is a treasure. But the most important friend? Yourself. And today? An unexpected treasure dropped in my lap.