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Hold Your Space…

“You cannot see your reflection in running water, only in still waters”
~Elizabeth Gilbert~

What is holding your space? Are you in charge? are you mindful to yourself?


Moment to Reflect:
I’ve since realized how I get so emotionally engaged in my challenges that I am so perplexed with issues which end up leaving me weak emotionally because I am tangled with details and often found it rather not easy to disengage emotionally.

Most of the times we focus on our challenges, leaving us in all kind of spaces and out of control in frustration so much that we forget to be there for ourselves, yet the first thing we need to do is bring ourselves to a state of calmness because only then that we are intact to deal with a challenge.

Being there for ourselves is very important and it start by being mindful to ourselves, this may start by not being hard to ourselves. At some point we may have done some mistakes but it’s not time to be thinking how you shouldn’t have done this or that but it’s time to show all the kindness we can afford to ourselves, because we need it. If we are ever to be anything out there, it gotta first start with us. So..,mindfulness start here at home with ourselves.

Acknowledge the pain; most often we resist, fearing the worst, contend with God or moan on how life is unfair if we not compering ourselves to others, basically we see ourselves as a target, well.., maybe we want to be the target because only by being the target we will get to exercise our strength muscles. We want to get ourselves to a point of seeing a challenge as a challenge, something that is giving us a skill.

I’ve learned that there is always something to be grateful about in any challenge, nor matter how small it is and when our focus is in that “what we can be grateful for” we are infused with so much energy that assist us in facing that particular challenge.

Certainly, there will be times when you want to let it all out but take comfort in that, nothing last forever, without wishing it away, you want to be present, you want to be in the moment enough to tell your story but most importantly you want to be there for yourself in a healthy way, hold your space!

Are you?


Zanele is an Author of two upcoming books and a Wellness Consultant and Mentor. She has a sparkling personality and a strong catchy spirit and regards herself as ‘reserved extrovert’. As a mother and a friend she is tender-hearted and loving and runs a mentorship programme for pre-teens and teenagers with her daughter. She is passionate about writing/journaling, wellness, personal development and family.

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2 thoughts on “Hold Your Space…”

  1. Emmanuelle Stathopoulos says:

    Loved your article Zanele, it reflects so much of what is in my mind lately. My conclusion so far is that challenges and failures are the gifts of learning that lead us to success. Yet for learning to take place we need to be mindful of ourselves and our role in relation to the end goal we want to achieve, be that in any area of our lives.

    1. timitude says:

      Thanks indeed. Glad that you were able to relate with this article in some way as these are borne out of personal experiences and meant to inspire. Thanks again for stopping by and commenting.

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